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Why Is It Important To Improve Your Self?
By Jacklyn | April 28, 2007
Sometimes, when all our doubts, fears and insecurities wrap ourselves up, we always come up with the idea of ‘I wish I was somebody else’. More often than not, we think and believe that someone or rather, most people are better than us.- when in reality, the fact is, most people are more scared than us.
We look at a young business entrepreneur and say ‘Wooh!’ what else could he ask for? He stares at himself at the mirror and murmur to himself, ‘I hate my big eyes I wonder why my friends won’t talk to me I hope mom and dad would still work things out.
Isn’t it funny? We look at other people, envy them for looking so outrageously perfect and wish we could trade places with them, while they look at us and thinks of the same thing. We are insecure of other people who themselves are insecure of us. We suffer from low self-esteem, lack of self-confidence and lose hope in self improvement because we are enveloped in quiet desperation…
Sometimes, you notice that you have an irritating habit like biting off your finger nails, having a foul mouth, and you of all people, is the last to know.
I have a friend who never gets tired of talking. And in most conversations, she is the only one who seems to be interested in the things she has to say. So all of our other friends tend to avoid the circles whenever she’s  around, and she doesn’t notice how badly she became socially handicapped gradually affecting the people in her environment.
One key to self improvement is to LISTEN and TALK to a trusted friend. Find someone who you find comfort in opening up with even the most gentle topics you want to discuss. Ask questions like ‘do you think I am ill-mannered?, ‘Do I always sound so argumentative?, ‘Do I talk too loud?, ‘Does my breath smell?, ‘Do I ever bore you when were together?. In this way, the other person will obviously know that you are interested in the process of self improvement. Lend her your ears for comments and criticisms and don’t give her answers like ‘Don’t exaggerate! That’s just the way I am! Open up your mind and heart as well. And in return, you may want to help your friend with constructive criticism that will also help her improve herself.
One of Whitney Houston’s songs says ‘Learning to love yourself is the greatest love of all. True enough. In order to love others, you must love yourself too. Remember, you cannot give what you do not have.
Before telling other people some ways on how to improve themselves, let them see that you yourself is a representation and a product of self improvement. Self improvement makes us better people, we then inspire other people, and then the rest of the world will follow.
Stop thinking of yourselves as second-rate beings. Forget the repetitive thought of ‘If only I was richer if only I was thinner and so on. Accepting your true self is the first step to self improvement. We need to stop comparing ourselves to others only to find out at the end that we’ve got 10 more reasons to envy them.
We all have our insecurities. Nobody is perfect. We always wish we had better things, better features, better body parts, etc. But life need not to be perfect for people to be happy about themselves. Self improvement and loving yourself is not a matter of shouting to the whole world that you are perfect and you are the best. It’s the virtue of acceptance and contentment. When we begin to improve ourselves, we then begin to feel contented and happy.
Topics: General, Personal Development | 6 Comments »
April 28th, 2007 at 12:18 pm
Great article Jacklyn! I always have those repetitive thoughts of “i wish i have more time, i wish i can quit my job, i wish i dun have all those urges to binge”
After reading your article, i MUST focus on accepting my true self and quitting being a perfectionist!
Slow down the journey and enjoy the process!
April 28th, 2007 at 8:05 pm
Great article Jacklyn. What you have said reminds me of something that I believe in all along. This belief is in doing what you like to do.
For example, you may see another person making money selling fishes and you may be tempted to sell fish also. However, most people will forget to ask themselves these two questions.
Do I like fish in the first place?
Will I continue this business even though things may not work out initially because of the passion instead of the monetary benefits?
By the way Jacklyn, I like your blog. Can we exchange blog links?
April 28th, 2007 at 9:45 pm
Hi Jack, you have inspired me with your blog. The question we ask ourself is always I wish… I hope… – people are better than ourself….
Why not tell ourself everyday, how can I be, how can I improve, how can I inspire, how can I motiveation thyself by doing something better than yesterday….
Do you know something, the people we envy, we think so highly of them…. they may be asking themself this question when they look at you…. Don’t let the negative thoughts disturb you…
Look forward… Be Inspired, Be Energized…. Work towards your Goal and how you want to celebrate your achievement…. Be it Big or Small.
Enjoy your Ultimate Success Process & The Heroine Journey !
Cheers!
May 1st, 2007 at 3:38 am
Hi Jennifer, you know you can change and choose your thoughts. Yes, focus only on positive and empowering thoughts and you’ll start to realize life is so much more meaningful now.
May 1st, 2007 at 3:51 am
Thanks Bill, I fully agree with you that we make decision and act base on our belief. And passion to me is the joy and willingness to do the stuff even there is no monetary gain. So, guess what else more we can achieve when we choose to work on a business that is also our passion!
May 1st, 2007 at 3:59 am
Whow Jalyn, what an inspiring message for all of us here! Hmm, POE must have made a great impact on your life now. Keep on inspiring Jalyn, we love you for that!