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Build Your Self Esteem – A Starter Guide To Self Improvement
By Jacklyn | April 17, 2007
So how do you stay calm, composed and maintain self esteem in a tough environment? Here are some tips you may want to consider as a starter guide to self improvement.
1. Negative Work Environment
Beware of “dog eat dog” theory where everyone else is fighting just to get ahead. This is where non-appreciative people usually thrive. No one will appreciate your contributions even if you miss lunch and dinner, and stay up late. In fact to them, staying late to work means your inefficiency to complete your work during the day! Stay out of this, it will ruin your self esteem. Competition is at stake anywhere. Be healthy enough to compete, but in a healthy competition.
2. Other People’s Behavior
Bulldozers, brown nosers, gossipmongers, whiners, backstabbers, people walking wounded, controllers, naggers, complainers, exploders,.. all these kinds of people will pose bad vibes for your self esteem, as well as to your self improvement scheme.
3. Changing Environment
You can’t be a green bug on a brown field. Changes challenge our paradigms. It tests our flexibility, adaptability and alters the way we think. Changes will make life difficult for awhile, it may cause stress but it will help us find ways to improve our selves. Change will be there forever, we must be susceptible to it.
4. Past Experience I
t’s okay to cry and say “ouch!” when we experience pain. But don’t let pain transform itself into fear. It might grab you by the tail and swing you around. Treat each failure and mistake as a lesson.
5. Negative World View
Look at what you’re looking at. Don’t wrap yourself up with all the negativities of the world. In building self esteem, we must learn how to make the best out of worst situations.
6. Determination Theory
The way you are and your behavioral traits is said to be a mixed end product of your inherited traits (genetics), your upbringing (psychic), and your environmental surroundings such as your spouse, the company, the economy or your circle of friends. You have your own identity. If your father is a failure, it doesn’t mean you have to be a failure too. Learn from other people’s experience, so you’ll never have to encounter the same mistakes. Sometimes, you may wonder if some people are born leaders or positive thinkers. NO. Being positive, and staying positive is a choice. Building self esteem and drawing lines for self improvement is a choice, not a rule or a talent. God wouldn’t come down from heaven and tell you: “George, you may now have the permission to build self esteem and improve your self.”
In life, it’s hard to stay tough especially when things and people around you keep pulling you down. When we get to the battle field, we should choose the right luggage to bring and armors to use, and pick those that are bullet proof. Life’s options give us arrays of more options. Along the battle, we will get hit and bruised. And wearing bullet proof armor ideally means ‘self change’. The kind of change which comes from within. Voluntarily. Self Change changes 3 things: our attitude, our behavior and our way of thinking.
Building self esteem will eventually lead to self improvement if we start to become responsible for who we are, what we have and what we do. It’s like a flame that should gradually spread like a brush fire from inside and out. When we develop self esteem, we take control of our mission, values and discipline.
Self esteem brings about self improvement, true assessment, and determination. So how do you start putting up the building blocks of self esteem? Be positive. Be contented and happy. Be appreciative. Never miss an opportunity to compliment. A positive way of living will help you build your self esteem.
Topics: General, Healthy Lifestyle, Personal Development, Positive Attitude | 2 Comments »
April 18th, 2007 at 2:45 am
Great Post, Jack..
Are you ready for Mod 2? I’m all geared up and look forward to working with you again.
Wei Ping
May 4th, 2007 at 11:11 pm
Agreetable with your article of being a
“POSITIVE PERSON”.
Well done! Jack.
It will be nice if you may share with us your experience to express more about
“People Environments” how to become a
“Good Citizenship” in near future.
Cheers,
Christine